When writing a birth plan, you have to remind yourself and your partner that it's just a "plan". Things aren't always going to turn out perfect or exactly how you want them to go. BUT with that being said, I have always felt there is no reason to panic, worry or be negative about your birthing experience.
When I first became pregnant I didn't have a strong view one way or another on the whole birthing experience, and before that I spent all my time and energy obsessing over getting pregnant! So when it finally happened I just took the first few months talking about names, nurseries, boy vs. girl, sharing the news with family and friends…you know the fun stuff. One night it sunk in…I am going to have to birth this baby, I am going to have to do something that every woman on tv and in the movies makes out to be the most horrific experience of their lives. And let me tell you, I was scared…what the heck did i get myself into.
The best and most positive thing I did during this stage of "a what is going to come out of where?" was deciding to go to prenatal yoga. I was surrounded by other pregnant women who were going through the same worries, pains and discomforts as I was. Having that support was WAY more helpful than I could have ever imagined. Prenatal yoga helped me find the courage to have some conviction in what I wanted for this pregnancy and delivery.
I ultimately decided that I wanted to have a natural birth. My husband was on board and very supportive of my decision, which I think is the number one most important thing to have. We both didn't feel comfortable with the idea of a home birth because of the "what if's". We felt more comfortable being with a physician in a hospital, and knew that if we stuck with our plan we could make a natural hospital birth work for us.
We decided to hire a doula and I am so glad we did. I mentally feel like I will be in the good hands of someone who has seen this a hundred times. I know that my husband feels some relief to have a doula at home with us during early labor to help him coach me too. Our doula is going to help us with our detailed birth plan so that she can help act as an advocate for us too.
We plan to labor at home for as long as possible, which i think will be helpful to avoid any interventions. I don't want my labor to be timed. I don't want to feel discouraged if progress isn't happening as fast as a hospital may want. I feel like my body will work the way it's suppose to and things will happen when they want. I know that this may seem "hippie" or "granola" as some may say, but I truly feel that unless we (me and the baby) are in trouble, there shouldn't be any interventions or means of speeding up the labor process.
My doula has told me I will have the instinct to know when it's time to go to the hospital. Also your physician will tell you 'when your contractions are this long and this far apart, for this amount of time' it's time to come in. The last thing any pregnant woman wants is to get to the hospital and have them tell you you have to go home because you aren't far enough along. Talk about discouraging! So when we get admitted to the hospital, I hope I will be pretty far along. I also want to get a room with a jacuzzi. I want to stay in that thing right up until that baby is ready to pop out. I also would prefer the room to be dark and quite. I focus best when I don't have a bright florescent lights shining down on me…as most would. I plan to listen to music and have my husband, doula and mother in the room with me. I have found these birth plan worksheets pretty helpful to iron out more details: 1 | 2 | 3
I am mentally ready for this baby now. I know that I am capable of delivering naturally. Ultimately I have erased all negative thoughts about birth or what could go wrong from my mind. To me, there is no reason to worry about those things. All you can do is think positive and hope for the best. BUT with all that said, it's important to talk with your partner/coach about the "what if's" and make a plan. I have learned not to listen to the negative comments or scary stories from people too. All this does is make you think something as amazing as your child's birthday will be a scary, awful experience. I mean have you ever met a mom that hasn't said "it was all worth it"? Me either…because we all know it is :)