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Toddler Tantrums

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  • Nothing is more frustrating than a toddler in a full-blown temper tantrum. Although you may feel overwhelmed, take comfort knowing most tantrums last less than 5 minutes – and most are over in only a minute.

  • Remove breakables, sharp objects (corners) and any other hazards. Physically move your child if they are in danger of hurting themselves or others.

  • To younger children, negative and postive attention are the same. Choose your battles! If the behavior isn’t destructive or dangerous, try ignoring it. More than likely your child will stop what they are doing and direct their focus toward you.

  • Derail a temper tantrum by pointing out something different or appealing like a toy or alternative activity. Be sure to not “reward the tantrumâ€� by giving the toy to the child.

  • It’s more about “resettingâ€� your child’s behavior. Pediatrician, Dr. Greg Severson suggests 1 minute for every year of age. For 15-18 month old, 30 seconds is long enough.

  • Studies show that as young as 15 months, children begin to recognize and react to visual cues from their parents. During temper tantrums it’s very important to remain calm and matter of fact. An emotional reaction from you will fuel the tantrum.

  • It’s a lot easier to prevent a tantrum that deal with one. Rewarding positive behavior is the best way to set your child up for success. Dr. Severson says a good rule of thumb is give 4 compliments for every redirection.

  • Don’t worry about the reactions of other people. Choose an action that works best with your child. For some children holding them and speaking calmly works best. For others, watchfully waiting out the tantrum is best.